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Family Series (4) – “Asking Questions to Ourselves”

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설교일 : 2014.05.25.
설교자 : Rev. Jang
본문말씀 : Ephesians 5:22-33

May 25, 2014

 

“Family, Asking Questions to Ourselves”

Ephesians 5:22-33

 

Rev. Chan Young Jang’s Sermon at KUMC of Metro Detroit

 

 

1.

Hallelujah! Abundant grace and blessings from God on your families! We have examined our family relationships for the past 3 weeks. First, ‘Asking questions to the parents first’, then ‘Asking questions to the children’, and then ‘Asking questions to our God’, and today we are asking questions to ourselves.

 

Starting from last Sunday until Wednesday the first Emmaus Camp in Michigan was held for the 80 participants very successfully with the help from God. We all enjoyed the prayers, the praises and God’s words and had a wonderful communal experience filled with God’s grace. Now that we are back, I hope all of us are performing our role as a member of our family with more enthusiasm and eagerness.

 

It is hard to believe, but I have heard that one of the most prominent pastors in Korea used to fight with his wife all the time. The reason for all these fights was because he had hurt his wife’s feelings by saying, “It’s in your blood” every time he was unhappy about something and by complaining about her parents and ancestors. Then she would respond with, “How about your blood?” and went on her complaints about his family. That’s how the bloody war got started every time.

 

Now, let us be honest. How is your family? I really want today’s sermon will make all of us to reflect upon ourselves, and will bring us more peace and grace. The word ‘Grace” is one of the most prevalently used words in the Bible. The first word of the last sentence of whole Bible is the “grace”. Revelation 22:21 “The grace of the Lord Jesus be with God’s people. Amen.”

 

We realize that a blessed family is a ‘home filled with Jesus’ grace’. I want this blessing of Jesus’ grace be upon all of you and your homes and absolutely no bloody wars.

 

Then we wonder what kind of home is filled with Jesus’ grace. Simply stated, in that home Jesus should be at the center of all the relationships, and that is the message in today’s Bible readings.  Whenever you look at your spouse, you should also see Jesus inside of that person.

 

How should a wife treat her husband? Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord”, and 5:24 “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”

 

Then how should a husband treat his wife? Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” And 5:28 “In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

 

What should their relationship be like? Ephesians 5:31-33 “”For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

 

The Bible says the relationship between spouses is ‘a profound mystery’, and that cannot be explained. When Jesus is at the center of all the relationships at home, he is the master of the home, so we look up at him and reflect on our behaviors, and then will appreciate Jesus’ grace in all the relationships.

 

Perhaps you are wondering how one can look up to Jesus all the time. It means that not only attending church regularly, you believe Him and live your life according to His teachings with the help of His grace. Just as He died on the cross to forgive all your sins and trespasses, you want to forgive and serve your spouse and children.

 

I want to share a testimony by a famous TV anchorwoman. She had been a Christian for a long time when she met a businessman through a matchmaker. He had everything she wanted in a husband except not being a Christian. She accepted his proposal with the condition of him attending the church. He was so eager to marry her that he got baptized without any objection and agreed to attend the church with her. To her greatest regret later, she hadn’t specified to him that not only ‘he should attend the church’, but also ‘he should believe in Jesus’. After marriage, he regularly attended the church, but usually slept through the worship service. He was confused about why his wife was not happy, and couldn’t figure out the reason. At the same time, she began to think her life was a failure, and hated to see him, especially him falling asleep in church. Then she realized she had neglected her own spiritual life, so resumed attending the early morning services, and then signed up for discipleship training. With the trainer she intensified her prayers for her husband, and after 6 months she was surprised to notice that her husband was very handsome. She began to look quite at peace with herself and her previous cheerfulness returned, and that made her husband happy. After seeing her changed, he began to turn toward her faith and wanted to learn more about Christianity. Later he confessed, “For the first time in my life I realized that having the faith in Jesus must be a wonderful thing. I am thankful for the grace from Jesus.”

 

 

2.

Let us examine our homes and ourselves. Is there the grace from Jesus in your home? How can you tell if there is the grace or not? It is very simple. If each of you is blaming the other and pointing out the other’s faults and sins, then there is no grace in your home. On the other hand, if each is willing to overlook the other’s faults and bear the burden of the other’s sins, then there is the grace in your home. It is the same with any other community including your church. The grace in a church doesn’t depend on the quality of the pastor’s sermon, nor on its mission or social activities.

 

After we receive God’s grace from above, we should apply that grace in our relationships on earth. When the members are willing to overlook the faults and bear the burdens of the others’ sins, the church is full of grace. Naturally all the churches should have been filled with grace, but gradually the grace may disappear due to the members. The same thing can happen with an individual and the person can slowly lose the grace.

 

Any church without God’s grace is a miserable place. The congregation can be worse than some non-believers group. The same thing happens in your home. The spouses can have the closest relationship, but also have the potential for the worst possible relationship. The longer you are in a marriage, the more you realize that a close relationship in a marriage depends on a lot more than physical attraction. So, it is a profound mystery that requires the intervention of God’s grace.

 

Therefore, we all have to seek for the grace from Jesus always. When the spirit of Jesus lives in you, you will have the heart of Jesus and want to act like Jesus. By overlooking the faults and sharing the burden of the sins, you will be able to forgive your spouse with the help of the grace. We all need Jesus’ grace from the cross.

 

There is this story about Rev. Billy Graham when he was preaching in Texas. One reporter asked his wife a question, “We all experience some crisis in our homes and contemplate divorce once in a while. How about you, when your husband travels to evangelize all year long, and you have to bring up your 5 children all alone?” She answered, “I never thought about a divorce, but sometimes I felt like killing him”. This answer seems a little too extreme, but I feel pastors’ wives in Korea may have somewhat similar thoughts. The families of the pastors need God’s grace just as much as anybody.

 

Let us think for a minute. Our home is the gathering place of a fragile husband and wife and God has formed it to show His grace and blessings. Therefore in our home we should experience and enjoy the grace and blessings that God provided.

 

Several years ago at a prison in Chung-Joo, an athletic event was held for prisoners that served over 20 years and their families. It was run just like an athletic event for an elementary school. The highlight race of the day was circling the field with your parent on your back as a part of your filial duty. As the participants in prison garb gathered, the atmosphere became quite somber. The prisoners and their parents began to cry and the field was covered with tears, and nobody wanted to be the first to finish the race. They all wanted to prolong the moments even by 1 second. You can never completely abandon your family and that is the grace.

 

But at the same time, it is just impossible for a family to overlook the faults and bear the burdens of the sins of each other. I cannot bear the burden of my own sins, how can I share those of the others in my family? There remains a ‘limit’ in our love for others.

 

 

3.

My beloved congregation, then how can we have the grace of God filling our home? Can you make it happen by just praying for it? Your prayer is very important, but that alone cannot do it. Along with the prayers, you should be always aware of the fact that ‘God’s grace in my heart is working through me’.

 

For the grace to fill your home, it needs at least a person who believes in the grace and appreciates it in your home. We need God’s grace in our home so urgently, as our faults and frailties are so transparent in our home.

 

Think about this. All your faults come out as soon as you are married. As they say, “a love affair is a sweet dream and a marriage is an alarm clock to wake you up from that dream”. Sometimes you are surprised at your own reflection revealed in your marriage. You really wanted to make your spouse happy, but it didn’t turn out that way, and you only hurt your spouse all the time despite your best efforts. Some of you may have the reputation of being very patient and considerate, having good manners and sensitivity at your work place or communities, but once you come home, you just become the opposite of your social self. In your married life, you innermost self shows up with your selfishness, infinite greed and apparent hypocrisy. That is why your home needs God’s grace more than any other places on earth.

 

When you are filled with abundant God’s grace, then those around you will feel the peace and happiness emanating from you, and eventually they will be changed. Only Jesus can change a person. When you try change a member of your family, it usually doesn’t work and you may fall on yourself while trying. The only thing you can do is to stay in Jesus and receive His grace all over yourself.

 

This is the testimony from the founders of the Fathers’ School and Mothers’ School in Korea. The wife gave up her job to help her husband more in his work, but she ended up interfering in everything he did, so he preferred to stay outside of the home. Soon the question of an affair on his part came up and she decided to get a divorce. When she told her young son in elementary school, he cried and stopped her from getting the divorce. Around this time, at the urging of a friend her husband went on to a 3 night 4 day spiritual retreat just like our ‘Emmaus Camp’ and met Jesus personally. As soon as he came home, he apologized to his wife for all his wrongdoings in the past. But she didn’t accept his apology and declared that there was no way for her to forgive him. Sometime later at church their pastor urged the congregation to pray for God’s help to forgive their own spouse. The husband wanted to check her reaction and sure enough she was crying. After crying up a storm, she was awakened by God’s grace to forgive him. Her confession is this: I thought the problem was my husband, but God showed me all the poisonous hurts that I was hurling at my husband.

 

My beloved congregation, you should be the first one in your family to be filled with God’s grace, instead of waiting for the others. Jesus will not turn away from your earnest request. Our role is to live in His grace. It should be enough for your family that you are so filled with grace. The abundant grace from Jesus in you will overflow and change the others in your family.

 

Let us ask ourselves this question about our families. What is the driving force in your family? What is motivating you in your life? I want the blessings and the grace from Jesus bestowed upon you and your family!

 

Let us all sing this hymn, “Abandoning myself and following His way”


   

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